- Never had crushes on boys (not change surface celebrities).- My first crush was on a girl when I was 14.- Finding the penis hideously grotesque.- Nope never had a boyfriend.- Women to me are beautiful. Absolutely luv the way they look the way they smell the way they act.- Watching lesbian films (not porn) frequenting lesbian chat rooms/forums/websites etc.
Now here’s the odd part. While it seems obvious that I really do desire (and am physically attracted to) girls. I find the idea of having sex with a woman unappealing. Kissing and cuddling are okay but that’s how far I’d go. In fact hypothetically-speaking. I’d probably rather undergo sex with a man (granted I don’t see his penis) than with a woman. (Not that I want to have sex with a man) So what does that make me then? Am I not a “lesbian” after all??
I am probably more confused than you. I am in my first lesbian relationship. I don’t agree with labels. I’m probably lesbian with bi-tendencies.
I have always had crushes on boysMy first crush was on a girl when I was 14 (we fondled and we both found it arousing/ecstatic)I don’t sight the penis a turn-on but like the conclude of it plunging deep inside meI have had a number of boyfriendsWomen are Gods. They give life and love and are beautiful. I get turned on just talking to lesbians.
You sound EXACTLY desire me. I’ve NEVER had crushes on boys my first press was on a girl when I was 14 (I’m 15 now) the sight of the penis makes me want to egest and I like everything about women. Have you ever had sex with a woman? If you haven’t then maybe that’s why you sight the idea of having sex with a man more appealing or maybe you desire to be dominated. I think when you sight that special someone you will much rather want to have sex with them than with anyone else but who knows no one said you had to figure everything out now. Just go with the move and see what happens. Good luck!
Well by reading your post. I couldn´t stop thinking of me when I was about 13. Actually somehow I had always known I wasn´t straight but I also had crushes on boys (which you don´t be to). After all of that confusing stage of accepting I also liked girls (maybe change surface more than guys). I had just gone through the first go: accepting I was a bi. But it wasn´t all cause after I agreed I was able to kiss girls. I still couldn´think of having sex with them! And after lots of surfering and wondering. I began dealing it ´process it finnaly happened. Today. I see clearly that my dislike about sex between women was a kind of disadvantage I had: something to do with all of that disadvantage and negative image the sociaty shows and was still a bit of non-acceptance I had about myself. So. I knew I was a bi. I knew I jus loved women and desired them but I still couldn´t broach it completetly. change surface though I didn´t compassionate about what people would say or think of me everything they thought about homosexual realationships was impregnated deep inside of me. I think your a Lesbian by what you said but even if your a bi evaluate about this things. ´cause I think it happens to a lot of people at least it happened to me. I wish it helps. Anyway try to act easily about this respect your measure sometimes it´s just what we need!
Karen while I do accept labels are restricting for me personally. I see it as a way to “belong.” It’s desire wanting to find my roots just like I found out that I am “mixed.” I grew up in a white household/neighborhood and for the most part look white. But. I do notice subtle difference especially my eyes which I get teased at growing up. When I tracked down and talked to my bring forth mother. I open out that my birth father was/is Korean. In a sense it was a huge relief finding out “who” I am. This is how I felt too when I open out I was gay. Anyway. I tell. Point is even though I accept in my heart that I am a lesbian it is baffling as to why I am not “sexually” attracted to women.
Yes. I’ve never had sex with a woman. Perhaps it is fear of the unknown that prevents me from taking the initiative. You also bring up an interesting inform regarding domination. To me the “unappealing” part only crosses my mind when I imagine myself “pleasuring” someone (and not when I’m in the receiving end). Does this alter me “less of a lesbian” if I’d rather acquire than to give? Or does it just make me plain selfish? :p On the other hand you are right if I do find that special someone. I believe I will do everything I can to gratify her.
Megara although disadvantage did exist against homosexuals in my measure. I was lucky enough to have been brought up in a somewhat “gay-friendly” neighborhood. I don’t have a problem dealing with my homosexuality and was lucky enough to have (adoptive) parents that were understanding and supportive when I came out. So while I don’t have an “inborn” prejudice. I may undergo a problem with “sex”.
Related article:
http://www.thelesbianquestion.com/2007/10/27/what-makes-me-a-lesbian/
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